I have droned on and on about writing this blog and it is about time I sat and got to it. I have to confess that there are times when I won’t write a blog because the concept in my head is a touch sarcastic or offbeat and I wonder if the idea will come off. Well… here we go.
I am 35 days into the commitment I made to myself of giving up alcohol for 40 days. For those of you following my 40 day sojourn here, you'll recall that my story left off with me heading out with friends to celebrate. We had a wonderful time celebrating our friend’s new corporate offices in Georgetown by the Potomac River (which is a very cool and hip part of our nation’s capital). The night was kicked-off by us visiting one of the most exclusive places to have a drink in DC, The Rye Bar.
I am so grateful for the many people in the world who are so much more knowledgeable than me (an extensive list, by the way). Yet I continue to be blown away by how some of the wisest people out there rarely get their ideas sold or shared all because they refuse to sell “ease." What I mean is that some of the best ideas, teachings and people seem to go unheard and unused because they:
Think for a moment on a time that you said yes when you know you should have thought twice or examined the question before you jumped in. For most, it won’t take too long to recall a number of circumstances. Today, I want to talk about our ability to say “No” or “Not Now” when we need to, and being okay it.
Everyone gets in funks. May not be often for some, but it still happens. Some funks can last an hour; some can last for a year.
I used to marvel at people who would boast that they could get by on 4-5 hours of sleep a night. I wanted to be them. Because I always felt like I needed more hours in my waking day to accomplish things. I can actually recall sitting in the audience of multiple different "rah-rah" events and hearing some form of: “Need more time? Sleep less.”
Some people seem to have a propensity to enjoy life. Do you know someone like this Someone that seems to find ways to enjoy the things that make up their day? Others (and sadly, it is too many others) have stopped pursuing the things in this world that bring them joy.
I Recently watched a video of a scientist speaking on the detriments of stress. The biological and psychological science behind the human experience of stress is amazing. Strangely, though, her point in this presentation wasn’t that stress is bad us (because we really don’t need a Ph.D. to tell us that). No, the interesting science she presented was that merely thinking about stress was bad for us. I suppose we all feel stress at some level and according to this doctor we were to accept the idea that stress is just a part of life and not stew on the idea because too much stewing could could shorten your lifespan considerably. After I untwisted my brain about thinking about thinking, I came to realize that whether stress itself or the thinking thereof was bad that we must keep having the courage to move through it in our lives.
Rewiring our minds is often about challenging the manner in which we think about things. For example, I used to think that being a "conviction-driven" person was a great thing. Then I realized that it can also be very harmful if my so-called "convictions" are steeped in fallible thinking. I do not believe that we should swing some pendulum and not have convictions – that'd be no good either. But I do have to wonder how our convictions can lead to prejudices and judgements; how claiming convictions serves our deep need to be right. Being overly "conviction-driven" has led me down some crazy paths where, in the end, I don't listen to others and effectively judge them when they don't think exactly like I do.
I'm pretty sure no one knows how many people have benefited from a 12-Step recovery program. And, as one of the key features of these programs is anonymity, I don't see how we could count. But I'd be willing to guess that there have been millions of courageous people who have willingly gone through a program (Talk about Rewiring your mind!).