Do you have a resolution that seems like it will never get resolved?
One common response we get from people after we help them to see their Lizard Brain is “Thank you for making me aware of my Lizard Brain…now how do I get rid of it?” The surprising answer we give people is "You can't kill the Lizard Brain -- nor would you want to.” And we're serious -- the Lizard Brain does some amazing things for us.
We all have things in our head that we want to do for the first time. We want to start really getting healthy for the first time or commit to reading a book a month or start making more sales calls. We have clients right now that want to start a marketing database or desire starting to get 8 hours of sleep a night, deepen certain relationships, or maybe even go skydiving for the first time. Logically, we know that we should begin some of these things, and there is even a part of us that desires to start some of these things but yet, simply put, we don’t.
Today was not an easy day. Good things happened today, but it was not easy. Here’s the story:
For the past few years, we here at Rewire have been working with people around the concept of change. Organizational change, marketplace change, personal change, circumstantial change…you get the idea.
Julee-anne Bell lives in Brisbane, Australia with her husband and their two teenage sons. And today’s Wireboard article is a story about her and her family. More specifically, it’s a story about their “arms.”
During the last few weeks we have written articles about when it might be the right time to leave a job as well as a mental approach to starting something new. We have many clients who seem to be in a transitional time in their lives and we’ve come to the conclusion here at Rewire that people are always in a state of transition (Heck, "a state of transition" is almost the very essence of being a human!) So, today we tackle the topic of how to resign with grace and professionalism. And we'll take this topic on whether it's from a job that you don’t like, or really from any job no matter how you feel about it (I got you with the title didn’t I?!).
The pull to repeat old patterns in our businesses and lives is as pervasive as gravity. Starting something new is so very difficult. Part of the reason for this difficulty is that to start something new is also to lose something old and we simply don’t want to let go of the old ways. And this is understandable -- up to a point. We talk about this often in our workshops and keynote addresses: there's a certain amount of familiarity and habituation that is desirable and serves your work well. Just think if you had to start from scratch every time you wrote an email. The internal dialogue might go something like:
If you haven’t felt it, you’ve likely heard it: “I tried and I failed. It’s just not worth it to keep trying!” Whether we apply this to giving up an old bad habit, starting a new good one or going after that next relationship or sales success that could change our careers, the reality is that failure is quite certain in our lives at some point. The question is not whether we will or won’t fail, but rather, whether we continue to go back for more. Guess what? Our brains don’t want us to go back for another round and we have to rewire them to approach things differently.
I have droned on and on about writing this blog and it is about time I sat and got to it. I have to confess that there are times when I won’t write a blog because the concept in my head is a touch sarcastic or offbeat and I wonder if the idea will come off. Well… here we go.
I am 35 days into the commitment I made to myself of giving up alcohol for 40 days. For those of you following my 40 day sojourn here, you'll recall that my story left off with me heading out with friends to celebrate. We had a wonderful time celebrating our friend’s new corporate offices in Georgetown by the Potomac River (which is a very cool and hip part of our nation’s capital). The night was kicked-off by us visiting one of the most exclusive places to have a drink in DC, The Rye Bar.
Have you ever found yourself at the end of a rant and had the thought, “Oh no... I shouldn’t have shared that much, said that much; made that statement.” Have you been left with a pit in your stomach wondering whether the person you just shared with would repeat what you said or think differently of you as a result? What did you do? Does this happen to you or someone you know often?