Everyone gets in funks. May not be often for some, but it still happens. Some funks can last an hour; some can last for a year.
And as we all experience funks differently, we all find different parts of them challenging. In my work, I’ve found that the most challenging and frustrating issue is how to get out of a funk when you are in one. There are many strategies to move through these times offered by many a psychologist or even earnest friends wanting to help. Some ideas and strategies are helpful and others only seem to grate on us when we hear them.
At Rewire, we’re not your BFF and we don’t have a psychologist on staff (yet), but we have found something we’d like to offer. A simple three-step process for pulling yourself through a hard time and breaking out of a funk:
- Step 1: Admit and accept that funk is your current reality. If you won’t do this, it’s hard to move through it because action based on incongruent self-evaluation is usually wrong action.
- Step 2: Make a simple list of the people in your life right now who you can call and help.
- Step 3: Help someone else (And this one is tricky because you may have to do this while you are not “feeling” great).
I want to be clear that it won’t work if you stop after steps 1 or 2. You’ve got to get to actually investing in someone else. And the counter-intuitive thing is that giving yourself to others has this amazing capacity for being the first domino to fall that ends a funk. It gets you outside of your own head. And then it changes the way you think about yourself, and then it changes the way you think about your circumstances. And then, as if by magic, your mind starts to chart a path out of the funk.
So, how do you end a funk? Invest in someone else. Don’t wait. There are people who need a kind word or simply just someone with two ears who will be present with them. It is amazing what you can bring yourself out of when you go dive in with someone else. Cheers to moving through.
P.S. I can’t let this post pass without talking about what we’re doing in The Lounge right now. Everyone who signs up this month will be investing in the work of Children First for Oregon, an organization that provides programs and advocacy for vulnerable children in the state of Oregon. That would be a great way for you to invest and we’d love to have you in The Lounge!